Parents treasure your little girls. Teach them to be strong, independent, determined, intelligent, curious, adventurous, and to be leaders. Funny, that sounds like the same things we think of when we think of little boys, coincidently that is also what we admire in our best athletes. Did you notice how I didn’t mention anything about dolls, tea parties, beauty pageants, or accessorizing? Little girls should be treated the same way we treat our little boys. Little girls should be asked about what they learned in school and what their favorite subjects are? They should be encouraged to pursue things that challenge them. They should be taught the benefits of healthy competition. They should learn games of strategy like chess and monopoly. Why do we only talk to them about extrinsic values, beauty and the value of appearance? The little girls we raise now will eventually become someone’s mother. Will she teach her kids to get back up when they fall? Will she teach them to pursue their dreams until they reach them? Will she teach them that using intellect can help you avoid personality conflicts? Will she be able to explain to them how important math and science have been to the history of our country? Will she teach them that in order to understand someone else’s plight it is necessary to walk in their shoes?
Contrarily will she be so self absorbed in her obsession with her beauty that she runs to any man that will worship her beauty? Will she rely solely on her beauty to get her where she wants to be in life? Will she be plagued with the thoughts that she is never thin enough? Will her insecurities about her self-worth prevent her from pursuing the career that she finds rewarding? Will she make bad decisions just to fit in? Will she accept the abuse from her significant other because she feels that is what she deserves? Will she bury herself under mountains of debt because she is trying to fill the hole left inside her by a lack of self worth?
I don’t have daughters, I have sons. I think about the women I see them marrying someday, and when I think about the qualities I will tell them to look for, I will tell them this: look for a woman that is strong because when you aren’t she will need to be strong enough to juggle your inadequacies. She should be tough enough to camp in a tent, but sweet enough to cuddle with by a campfire. Look for a woman that understands the difference between needs and wants, because you will face tough financial times. Find a woman that can think for herself but only has a heart for you. Look for quirks that make you smile. She needs to have determination and grit because you will have dreams for your family and she will help keep you focused when you lose sight. She needs to be intelligent so that when you act stupidly she can save your butt. She needs to be able to forgive because you will make at least one mistake every day. Her curiosity, will lead you on adventures that will make the memories you keep for the rest of your life. Lastly she must be a leader, because if she leaves this world before you, the life she led should be so admirable that you follow closely behind her because you are lost without her.