So many of us go through life thinking we will make positive changes tomorrow. What we don’t often realize is that tomorrow may be too late. Meet Frank Miller. With a family history of heart problems, Frank knew he had to make some changes as he neared his 43rd birthday. Frank didn’t want his children to go through what he has struggled with for the past four decades and he knew that if he learned how to change his life, he could teach them to do the same.
As Frank explains, his weight has always been an issue for him. As a child he was teased. During high school athletics and even in the military, he always had to keep a close eye on his weight. To him, weight is more than a number; it is a determining factor of who he is and who he is going to be.
Nearing his 43rd birthday, Frank says he decided he was going to “have to do something to change before he was TOLD to change.” He had tried many different diets, supplements and ‘fads’ and none of them had worked. Looking back, Frank realizes they didn’t work because he wasn’t ready to make those needed changes in his life.
At 298 pounds, he was determined that he would not see his scale turn to 300. He also didn’t want his children to see him growing older and not being physically active. He contacted Metabolic Research Center and asked the staff to teach him how to eat. While he wasn’t opposed to utilizing supplements to help him over the rough patches, he understood that he needed to be taught about food. He learned when to eat, how much to eat and how to adjust his intake according to his activity level.
Frank started his emotional journey in October of 2013. At that time he says, he was ready to receive it. He was ready to learn and he was ready to make changes in his wellness. In addition to learning about managing his calories, Frank also wanted to become more active. He had always loved to kick box and found an immediate connection to Natalia Oviedo, at iLoveKickboxing.com. During his first class, he said he totally bombed it. He broke a toe after doing his forms wrong and he could barely make it through 30 seconds of the intervals. While his mind was physically active, his body was having a hard time keeping up. As frank explains, “often it is our minds that we need to get on board, we need to get the emotions on board before we can get the physical body going.”
Soon he began losing weight and he was attending 3-4 classes per week. After close to 9 months, Natalia talked to him about becoming an instructor and today he teaches 5-6 days per week while taking another two classes on his off days.
How does his family factor into his new lifestyle? With a wife, three children and two grandchildren, Frank has many reasons to be thankful. In the beginning, his family supported him; however they weren’t active participants in his journey. He meal preps every week and takes the opportunity to educate his family on making healthier choices. He also teaches his children to plan ahead for those times when they are in a hurry and need to grab something quickly.
After watching him for almost two years, Frank’s wife, Brandi took her first kickboxing class and fell in love with it. Soon she was participating in class 3-4 times per week and as of this writing, Brandi has lost 27 pounds! Jered had to shed pounds for the military. Working with his commanding officer, Jered was able to meet his desired military weight, however with his dad; he is learning that he has more choices for healthier meals. Franks daughter, Jessica also recently began taking classes with her parents and has taken an interest in eating healthier. For Frank, one of his proudest moments was his daughter coming to him and talking about not wanting to go to the gym, for fear of being judged. Frank told her” I want you to feel how I feel when you’ve gone through it (starting the weight loss/wellness journey). No one at the studio makes you feel judged.” He loves having his family on board with him and supporting one another. For him, teaching his family touches his core on an emotional level, as he personally knows the impact positive changes can make.
Frank recently reached his 70 pound weight loss mark. Right now he is in the maintenance phase and is focusing on helping others experience their own journey. When asked what guidance he would give to someone else who doesn’t know how to start on their own wellness program, Frank gave these suggestions.
*Talk to someone you can trust. Find someone who has gone through their own transformation and build a relationship of trust with them.
*Find an activity that you enjoy doing for the sheer joy of it. Play basketball a few times per week, join a group class, enroll in a sport…just do something that makes you excited to even think about doing it!
*Remember the first 3 months are an emotional transition. It may only take weeks to get used to the physical activity, however you have to wrap your mind around changing.
It is imperative to surround yourself with people who are uplifting and will support you at any time of the day. As Frank teaches his students, “it is easy to be motivated at 5:00 when you are here with me, but what happens at 11:00 tonight when the dark thoughts enter your mind?” For Frank and his students, social media plays a huge role and they support one another when those dark thoughts try to dim their lights.
For now, Frank continues to pay it forward and guide others through their wellness journey. As he understands each person is different and he tells his students “the journey is yours” and he encourages each one every step of the way.