Letting Go Of The Past To Prepare For The Future
We all have challenges, hardships and obstacles to overcome. Some of us are up for the challenge, some of us take the easy way out, some of us don’t care either way. For those who face adversity head on, they know it’s not going to be easy, but quitting is never an option. They may feel feel alone, exhausted, afraid and may question every step of the way. But for those brave few who push through the day, their vision is a strong force within that tells them to fight for what they believe in and push negative self talk out and insert positive, supportive activities and friends that help them accomplish their goals.
Piper Silver is up for the challenge. Piper could have chosen the path of least resistance, but she had a defining moment in her life that altered her way of thinking and living forever. Many of us have defining moments; in fact, Dr. Phil says most of us have three in our lifetime that are game changers. What we do with those defining moments can negatively or positively impact our life: We choose. How we react to a moment and what we move forward with may not always be easy, but nothing worth having comes easy anyway.
We know that our early experiences likely affect all of us to a certain extent. However, a difficult childhood does not have to be the blueprint for the rest of your life. You can overcome a bad beginning and go on to live a great life. Once you recognize the ways childhood adversity has influenced your life, you are in a position to do something about it. Piper was ready to change the course of her life for the better.
Native to Omaha, Piper was in and out of foster homes most of her younger, formidable years. Her last childhood home: Boys Town at 12 years old. Piper’s mom left the family when Piper was only 18 months old and Piper was left with her abusive father. Early on, Piper started acting out in school and the state stepped in – insert Boys Town. Boys Town saved her life. Piper lived with an amazing family, Jeff & Jenny Everett. After high school, Piper received a full ride to Peru State College. She studied for one year and then her father died – a defining moment for Piper. Piper wasn’t sad or angry and was confused by her feelings – or lack thereof. She started eating and drinking to numb the pain, shame and confusion and in one and half years gained sixty pounds.
After her father’s passing, Piper heard about the Job Corps and decided to head to Kansas City. She later met a man in KC who exhibited the same abusive patterns as her father. He was was emotionally and physically abusive to her. Piper continued to put on weight. She was miserable, but didn’t want to leave him, she didn’t want to be alone – and chose to stay in the relationship for six years following him to St. Louis. “You don’t always see the situation for what it is, “ Piper told CTM, “I do now, God had his hand in it the whole time.” It was while living in St. Louis Piper became sick, had emergency surgery on her ovary and lost 75 pounds quickly afterwards.
Finally after six years in an abusive relationship, Piper moved back to Omaha with only a few outfits and no belongings. She didn’t care – she was ready to start over. She landed a job at Salon Fusion and attributes Jamie Larsen for starting the positive path toward self-love. Jamie believed in Piper and gave her a chance. Sometimes it just takes one person to reach out their hand, say they believe in you and will be by your side – one person can change someone’s entire life course – and that is exactly what happened when Jamie put her trust in Piper. Giving her responsibility and encouragement, Piper felt alive and whole, she felt a sense of worth – she felt that she mattered.
Piper joined a gym and started walking. She dropped a few pounds just by staying active and watching her calorie intake. The pounds came off fast for awhile, then it started getting harder to lose the remaining weight. She tried various diet programs and rode the roller coaster for some time. Piper decided to join Lifetime Fitness and there she gained a huge support system, new friends and a new outlook on life. People were different, they wanted her to succeed, they cheered her on and became her dearest friends. Piper was in love with fitness. It was at LifeTime where Piper met both Craig Wiedel and Nic Luhrs, representatives with Complete Nutrition. Nic and Piper are now roommates and Piper is a spokesperson for Complete Nutrition, accrediting Craig for a mentally challenging Piper and believing in her from the start. Funny how quickly life can flip around when you surround yourself with positive, caring people.
Last year Piper met Conner Rensch who in turn introduced her to Tim and Ashley Gorham. Piper was only looking for a personal trainer at the time, but happily was offered a job at Style Fitness & Nutrition, the Gorham’s personal training facility off 151st & Industrial Road. The Gorhams love Piper as if she were family and have been instrumental in helping Piper overcome mental obstacles and poor nutrition habits. Piper tells CTM, “ Tim and I don’t always see eye to eye, but I call that tough love.” Piper admits her biggest struggles are not following the nutrition plan, her vulnerability and putting herself out there for others to watch, support and follow, as well as letting go of the past. Ashley Gorham tells CTM, “Since childhood, Piper has always turned to food as a coping mechanism. Those engrained habits are hard to change overnight, but with the right approach, it can happen! It was important for her to become self-aware and acknowledge her actions instead of playing the victim or justifying her behavior. It’s almost like all her past decisions were made on autopilot. We’re working on becoming less hasty and more self-aware; practicing good decision making and taking responsibility for every action.”
Piper has not been under 200 pounds since 6th grade and her goal in 2016 is to achieve a healthy body weight under 190 pounds. She is feeling confident again, feeling active and more energetic. Piper wants to help young girls who are battling with past issues and cannot move forward – she wants to be their inspiration, she wants them to hear her story and know if she can do it, so can they! Piper exclaimed, “Find your why – everything else is superficial, it has to be bigger than you!” Piper told CTM that she would rather have recognition on how she is directly impacting others – versus validation from others.
To follow Piper’s Journey, find her on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/piper.silver