We usually say that kids are a handful. However, when our children become teenagers and enter to puberty, those small problems tend to escalate, and become more important. Every parent will vouch for this. That age is all about testing parental authority. Teenagers use this time to make a path toward creating their identity, and it is not uncommon to have many arguments with their parents at that time. Parents should know that that’s quite reasonable and that their kids are starting to think and act independently.
Two of most difficult task parents’ face are trusting their teenagers and overcoming the painful knowledge that their children do not want to depend on them anymore. It is crucial to teenagers to know that their parents trust them. However, we, as parents are torn between being assured to trust our children and their ability to make the smart choice.
Here are a few pointers that will help teenagers to keep their self-esteem intact and also a few well-meant pieces of advice to parents to learn how to trust their kids in making a smart choice.
1. Say NO to Negativity
When kids go through teenage age, they become insecure and start to worry about not being attractive, smart enough or pretty enough. That’s the perfect time to talk to them and point out some very relevant facts. It is very easy to make the wrong decisions, and your teenager should stop and think before acting. Negativity is such a nasty feeling and can sneak up on you when least expected. You, as a parent should always emphasize their good sides and explain that not everyone is the same. Explain that if they have a positive approach to an inevitable issue they will probably come to a solution to whatever problem they are facing. Positivity is the key to success.
2. Deal with Failure
Teenage years are the ones where children have the hardest time dealing with failure. Failure is a part of life, as well as a success. You should explain to your teenager that that’s a normal course of events. We all face with failure, and there will come a time when not everything will be pink, so to speak. The most important thing is to convince your child that all this is normal and has to be treated as such.
3. Accept the People As They Are
Every person is a story for itself. There are no two individuals completely the same across the globe. We all come from different background, with different education and almost everything else. If your child wants to have a friendly relationship with anyone, he/she has to acknowledge that person as equal to themselves. Your teenager has to accept people as they are. That’s the only way to having a friend they can trust and love. If we do not accept people for who they are, we’ll never have a healthy relationship, and nor will your teenager.
4. Understand Your Capabilities
There is no person on the planet that does not possess an individual skill. However, we cannot all be brain surgeons, which is fine. Each of us has something to contribute, but the trick is to finding something we are good at and love doing. Talk to you children, and tell them, that patience is the key. If they see a friend who, for example, plays the piano well, that does not automatically mean that he should also be a virtuous as well. Time is a crucial factor, and only time will show his capabilities.
5. Try Your Best to Solve Troubles
As we go through life, problems and troubles will appear. There is nothing we can do to prevent them from happening. However, there is one thing we can do to make it better. We can do everything in our power to solve the troubles we are facing. Why is that so important? Well, it will teach your child not to give up, and not to surrender. It will give an idea that nothing should be taken for granted. Your teenager will learn that life is not something you just go through, it’s something you live, and try to make better as each day passes.
It is not easy for adults to go through life sometimes, and for teenagers can be whether demanding. They go through all those changes and have to deal with peer pressure and all sorts of issues. The key to having a responsible young adult is a healthy open conversation.