Like many girls growing up in the 70’s, there were two women who showed me what a strong woman looked like…one had a few “upgrades” and the other got people to tell the truth with a golden lasso.
“Jamie Summers” and “Diana Prince” (aka Wonder Woman©) were two gals that were going to do what’s right, even if it meant they did it alone. They didn’t care what others thought or wondered how they were going to get it done. They just went out and did it. They didn’t ask for permission either.
So, I ask you…where have all the good heroines gone?
For a while, we had Xena, Warrior Princess.
But who has stepped up since then?
One of the things I have noticed in the 30 plus years since I was a young girl, is that there are no real strong heroines out there for the girls today to look up to, to model after, to admire.
Believe it or not, we are doing our girls a disservice by not showing them how to be strong, how to overcome fear, and how to fight through tough days.
Don’t believe me…walk down the gift bag/birthday party aisle in any store…what do you see? You see the themes for boys centered on a slew of superheroes, those with the cape and those without. You see sports of all kinds along with some cool stuff like trains and construction vehicles. Now tell me what the girls’ stuff looks like…you guessed it. There are pretty pink unicorns, some little girl with a strawberry on her head, and princesses galore.
It takes me back to the old nursery rhyme where we compare what “little boys and little girls are made of” as I try to hold down my lunch and not just became irate.
This is just one way society has ruined the inner power of every girl.
And to think it started with the bag we gave our niece his birthday gift in.
This past summer, I partnered with FITGirl Inc., a non-profit here in Omaha that focuses on empowering teenage girls and one thing stuck out as I chatted with these girls…
NONE of them had a “super hero” to look up to in their life.
So, I decided to do something about that – by teaching these girls about one of my favorites…Wonder Woman©. I wore my Wonder Woman shoes, socks, and shirts throughout the week. Most of these girls had never even heard of Wonder Woman, so having someone stand in front of them and show them how to strong, how to overcome fear, and how to trust in who they are was invaluable. (Believe me…I could never pull off being Lynda Carter.)
Here are the best 5 reasons why girls need to believe in someone other than a girl who can freeze stuff with her hand:
- A strong heroine does the hard stuff because it’s the right thing to do. If we don’t show these girls to fight through things that are difficult, they are going to be in for a rude awakening as they get into high school, college, and then out into the real world. Sitting with a fellow student who sits alone at lunch sets an example that other kids will soon follow.
- A strong heroine is someone that is trustworthy. Nowadays, girls want someone they can trust and when they open up a little bit to someone, the last thing they want is that trust thrown back at them via social media. It’s hard enough to be who they are (even as they figure that out) and still have to worry about who is their friend and who isn’t.
- A strong heroine speaks up. Silence is easy. Be the girl that doesn’t always agree with the crowd, the one that goes against the grain, and believes in what we value in someone’s character. This girl will be noticed and that is not always a bad thing…in fact, it is how we start to pay attention.
- A strong heroine always gets back up. She accepts that not everything she does will turn out the way she wants it to, but that doesn’t mean she quits. In fact, she dusts herself off and gets back into that fight. She doesn’t know what it’s like to quit and she sure isn’t going to just because you think she should.
- A strong heroine controls her fear. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t feel fear – she just harnesses that energy in a positive way that will help her instead of hold her back. She knows that if she takes just one step past where that fear is the highest, then it empowers her even more.
We need girls who are tough. The ones who don’t take “no” for an answer. The ones who protect the ones who need protecting. The ones who give whole heartedly, without condition, just because they can. The ones who dream of making this world even better than you and I could ever make it. The ones you and I know.